Psychotherapy as a Spiritual Pursuit
I think it is everyone’s job, everyone’s spiritual job, to clean up the human mess your parents left you and not spread any more dysfunctional hurt around to any other people. So I think it is your job...
View ArticleWould a Therapist Ever Just Give UP on a Client?
That’s a very important question – in that it could be devastating to a client to be “fired” by his/her therapist. It’s tantamount to having your parent dis-own you, because of the transference. After...
View ArticleHow do you know when it is time to leave therapy?
When you are ready to go it on your own, and you don’t want to keep going to see your therapist. You don’t have to be ‘completely done ‘ with growing and changing, or with therapy, you will learn and...
View ArticleTranspersonal Psychotherapy
I have been a psychotherapist for 40 years and have done energy work for most of that time. Now, as a Holy Fire III Reiki Master, I am letting the Madison community know that I enjoy combining Reiki...
View ArticleDo therapists ever get annoyed at or tired of their clients?
Yes, I think so. The job of the therapist is to use yourself as an instrument, and be aware of how you ( your instrument) reacts. If you feel angry, irritated or bored with a client, very likely other...
View ArticleHave Clients Ever Straight Up Lied In Session? Can You Tell ?
Yes, clients do sometimes lie in therapy, and I’ve had my share. Here are a few examples I remember: An alcoholic says she stopped using when she hadn’t. I had no way of knowing except by hunch, and...
View ArticleHow Do Therapists Stay Calm When the Client is So Very Angry at Them?
I think there are a couple of reasons. One is that we (us therapists) forgive ourselves for mistakes, and two, is that often we haven’t really done anything wrong at all and the client is angry because...
View ArticleRe-parenting in Psychotherapy
I think therapists are re-parenting all the time they are in session with a client, and being keenly aware of that is part of using transference. Recognizing that transference is going on all the time...
View ArticleHow is it for the therapist to have a client try to tell you about their...
It feels touching, just as seeing anyone say I matter to them would feel touching to me. Knowing that it is part of the ‘set up’ as a therapist, i.e. that if I do my job well my clients may well...
View ArticleHow Can I Overcome My Fear of Being Vulnerable in Therapy/
You are absolutely right, you are vulnerable in therapy. Even when your therapist works to gain your trust, as she / he should, you can only know then that the therapist will do all they can to protect...
View ArticleRelationships
In the middle of war, people are still very preoccupied by the state of their love relationship. Love is so important, and it is so easy to mess it up. Many people find maintaining a good relationship...
View ArticleWould a Therapist Ever Give Up on a Client?
That’s a very important question – in that it could be devastating to a client to be “fired” by his/her therapist. It’s tantamount to having your parent dis-own you, because of the transference. After...
View ArticleHow Do Therapists Re-parent?
I think therapists are re-parenting all the time they are in session with a client, and being keenly aware of that is part of using transference. Recognizing that transference is going on all the time...
View ArticleThe Most Common Problem that Brings Couples into Therapy
A very common problem that brings many couples into therapy is actually something that happens as a part of the normal growth of every relationship. Initially, most couples go through a very romantic...
View ArticleThe Secret Sides of People that Therapists See that Most Other People Don’t
I heard this story first in Gestalt Therapy Training, some 30 years ago: Snakes live in the forest. Their daily travels take them over rough stones, branches, and uneven ground. Every Spring the...
View ArticleDo therapists ever get annoyed at or tired of their clients?
Yes, I think so. The job of the therapist is to use yourself as an instrument, and be aware of how you ( your instrument) reacts. If you feel angry, irritated or bored with a client, very likely other...
View ArticleVideo Conferencing Therapy Sessions
I have switched all my sessions to video conferencing sessions, and they are going very well. I have been pleasantly surprised that these distant connections with my clients are working just as well as...
View ArticleEnergy Healing
I combine energy healing and psychotherapy. I have been a psychotherapist for over 40 years and a a practicing energy healer for 30 years. I’m a Reiki Master and have had training in Shamanic Healing....
View ArticleHow Therapists Reparent
I think therapists are re-parenting all the time they are in session with a client, and being keenly aware of that is part of using transference. Recognizing that transference is going on all the time...
View ArticleHow a Therapist Should Respond to a Client Who Feels Attracted to Them
What I tell my clients if they feel romantic about me, and tell me so, is that those feelings are normal and OK to feel. I assure them that I will never take advantage of their feelings and will always...
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